It is quite interesting how many men will love to marry a wife like the Proverbs 31 woman. What an irony to discover that very few of these men really know the qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman.
It is rather sad that in the 21st century, some men still see women as personal properties. They still believe that women have nothing valuable to contribute to the society. As such, their place should be in the kitchen, labor room and that’s all.
You marry a woman who is a professional, and then you want to stop her from practicing her profession because “she is your wife”. My question to such men is: why did you marry her in the first place knowing she is a hard worker and a career woman? There are so many ladies out there in the streets doing nothing, just looking for a man that can provide for them and make them their wives. I guess you should look in that direction instead of going after a woman fulfilling her purpose and get bent on stopping her after marriage.
It is even more depressing to see this happen not only in the Muslim world but also among Christians that are supposed to be the light of the world. It might interest you to know that many churches today, even as I write this article, still do not believe that women should hold any position of leadership in church, talk more of pastoring.
You don’t want your wife to work, pursue her calling, fulfill her purpose and yet you want a Proverbs 31 woman for wife. Have you ever read Proverbs 31:10-31? I doubt, because if you have read it, you will know that the woman described in this Scripture was a business woman, home keeper and a hard worker. She had a ministry to the poor and needy. You can call her a philanthropist in our today’s English language.
Because of her and the fruits of her hands, her husband is known in the gates of the (city). She brings honor to her husband and children from her achievements. She buys properties with her own money, not the money of her husband- Proverb 31:16. (Well this one is for the ladies who do not want to work hard and are busy hunting for rich men to marry and yet you want to be called a Proverbs 31 woman).
For the men who cannot stand the great achievements of women and their wives, I have a special advice for you; you do not need the Proverbs 31 woman for a wife. We sing the praises of the Proverbs 31 woman, yet we do not encourage our women to be that woman because of pride, arrogance, selfishness and poor mindset.
So many women have lost their life purpose, passion, callings and visions in life just because they are married. They are married to men who believe they are properties that belong to them and the kitchen, to meet their every need and help in fulfilling their dreams while their dreams are not given a chance to be expressed, talk more of being fulfilled.
Marriage is partnership. It is not meant to be parasitic but mutualistic. My dear ladies, before you say “I do” to any man, be very sure he is ready to help you or at least allow you to pursue your calling and purpose in life. “Marriage is not a do-or-die affair”. You don’t need marriage to fulfill your calling or purpose in life, neither is marriage a ticket to Heaven. Don’t sell out your God-given purpose just because you want to be “Mrs. Somebody”.
My dear women, and to the men who love them, encourage your wives to be the best they were created to be. Help them to fulfill their purpose and callings in life. Be a source of motivation to your wife and not discouragement and she will bring honor, respect, and dignity to you all the days of your life. Because of her, you shall be known in the city and be celebrated by all when you sit among the elders. #Proverbs31Woman.
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